Post by Mo on Jan 22, 2010 16:43:55 GMT -5
I'm looking for advice for strfaight female partners of on FTM who still have a preference for women. My boyfriend has begun… I don’t know if you would call it transitioning yet…more like a time of self discovery. He’s known that he is transgender for years, but has kept it hidden and compartmentalized, not really doing anything to let his true self out. Finally, he feels comfortable enough to recognize who he is.
I was surprised with how comfortable I was with it all. I knew he identified as female for a long time, but did not understand what that really meant until this year. Knowing the truth explained a lot and has brought us closer.
But this is all just as new for him as it is for me. He is often afraid that he is being unfair or that he’ll weird me out, so I can’t always take my cues from him.
So what can I do to help my newfound girlfriend? I want to encourage her without pushing her, and I want to know what to expect. How can I help her?
I was surprised with how comfortable I was with it all. I knew he identified as female for a long time, but did not understand what that really meant until this year. Knowing the truth explained a lot and has brought us closer.
But this is all just as new for him as it is for me. He is often afraid that he is being unfair or that he’ll weird me out, so I can’t always take my cues from him.
So what can I do to help my newfound girlfriend? I want to encourage her without pushing her, and I want to know what to expect. How can I help her?