Post by Heather S. on Jun 24, 2003 15:26:49 GMT -5
Pardon me for being a little out of the new terminology... But what do you mean by "transensual"?
When Avery came out of the transgender closet, I had ID'd as lesbian for almost 10 years. When he told me about his need to change his ID, mine got lost somewhere in the mix. I don't feel too upset about this, it's just a little strange.
Take care, Heather
There came a time when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. -- Anais Nin
I kind of assumed it was something along that line, but wanted to make sure.
I am definately Femme, and I am definately attracted to my boyfriend... So, huh... there is a label for me if I want one, I guess. I don't know that I am ready to be labeled again yet, so I will just go one calling myself a woman who loves someone...
yes Heather i deffinately understand what you are talking about..... and transensual femme is a great idenity...... i just know that i am basically to the point that i am just me..... i have come down a very confusing path in my life..... i started out with men..... i mean i didnt hate it but it just didnt feel completely right..... i mean i could be with them or what not... well then when i was 19 i started seeing just women... well i had started out by saying that i was bi but then i came to realize that other women would look down at me.... and say that i was just confused and couldnt make up my mind and that there was no such thing as being bi.... so since it was bio born male attutudes that i really dislike and how most of them would treat women... i finally decided that i was a lesbian and never wanted to be with men again..... that is until i met my man.... and now that i am with him.... it is like i dont know what the heck i am..... i mean he is the very masculine quailities that i love so much... but he also has some what of a sensitive side and is more caring and loving because he knows all the womanly stuff that i am going through..... and so now i am like i have no clue what i am but i would have to say that transensual femme fits me perfect!!!!!!
" Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but only by the moments that take your breath away."
I LIKE THE TERM "TRANSENSUAL" I MUCH PREFER IT TO TRANSSEXUAL. I REFER TO MYSELF AS AN " XY WOMAN" FOR ME THAT STATES THAT THE DIFFERENCE IN ME AND OTHER WOMEN IS CROMESONES. IT PUTS THE EMPHASIS ON THE REASON THAT I BECAME THE WOMAN THAT I AM, RATHER THAN STATING THAT THE PRIMARY REASON WAS "SEXUAL' WHEN IT WAS MORE GENDER DRIVEN. TEXTALLIE.
Erin, We have almost the same relationship history. I started out with men, then mixed it up, then went to women only... I met Avery during the women only, when he was still Megan. Now, I guess I'm back to guys again, or I should say, A guy again. Just with a little twist.
Allie, What a great way to put it!! I love it; an XY woman. And I absolutley agree that there needs to be a defining line in there, between Transensual and sexual. Big difference there.
Trans-sensual. I do like the term. There is something reassuring about having a term to go along - or cover - what sort of a relationship I'm in.
I too used to date men - then women - then I was with a woman and a man for 10 years. When I left that relationship I found solice in the gay community. I feel comfortable with Queer people. Be them gay, lesbian, Bi, Trans, there is a kinship that I feel because we all are walking that boundary of sexual identity that isn't in the storybooks.
I've had the same experience of being told I wasn't truely Bi or that Bi people didn't exist! How ridiculous! That's almost as good as someone saying that homosexuals don't exist! I held onto my Bi-ness regardless because I felt that I had the romantic emotional capacity to love both male and female personas. Eventually I came to define myself as a lesbian identified bi-sexual. I felt that really fit me.
Now that I'm in a relationship with a trans-person I know that I'm still queer and always will be queer - with a Bi-sexual root. Yet I don't know how quickly I want to redefine myself in relation to someone else's definition - be that definition trans, bio, or otherwise.
But since hearing the term trans-senual I realize that I liked it. In many ways I think I'm realizing that I have an attraction not just to bio boys and bio girls but also to trans boys and trans girls. Perhaps that shouldn't be surprising and perhaps it seems like it is simply because I haven't thought of this particular before.
So many faiths, so many creeds. So many paths that wind and wind. When just the act of being kind is all this sad world needs.